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Knowing that oil can not be mixed with water and that people are still stubborn in trying it is a waste of time and effort. In resolving disputes, the most important thing in reconciliation is whether the two sides are in agreement. Are they brave enough to come face to face? Or just talking to each other from a distance? This is a major issue that conflict makers should also be aware of to avoid wasting time and energy like men trying to mix oil with water!
Arguing between the elderly and the elderly is not as easy as the children who are comforted by sugar or quarreling today or tomorrow. But it is a quarrel that is not easy to reconcile, it is a quarrel with respect for each other, until some people quarrel until they enter the coffin. Conflicts are divided into three categories: individual conflicts, conflicts between politicians and politicians in society, and geopolitical conflicts. All the conflicts raised are related to all these interests and are difficult to resolve. If no one benefits and one loses, they do not quarrel, whether it is a conflict between individuals or a conflict over political influence.
For the following methods, it may be effective only to resolve disputes between individuals or small institutions, it may not be effective in resolving political disputes and power struggles. Why so? Because political conflict is related to three factors: policy (perspective) (assuming that one’s policy is better (this)), direct desire for power (greed and will). Politicians, if they can agree They should not form a party to do politics, the things that can not be united, at first it is different, and with the will to grow, what is the reason for them to unite? However. Politicians should quarrel or disagree only on policy, and then the nation will prosper. If quarreling is individual hatred, it will not benefit the people. Here are some ways to resolve the conflict:
Be willing to compromise first, do you have a sincere desire to compromise?
Stand on both sides (you can not get people to reconcile with you and make huge payments for satellite communications)
Meet in person to talk about dissatisfaction with each other to make changes.
Raising dissatisfaction with each other will focus on what is important.
Do not speak angrily or express demands.
Focus on listening to the other side willingly without beating the drum.
Make an agreement that can be agreed upon (thinking win-win)
After the settlement, there is always resentment towards each other because people know the thoughts of the other party who think negatively about themselves. In other words, it is like a wound that often leaves scars after treatment, so you need to:
Compensate each other by paying attention, helping each other, using soft words to each other.
Do not recall things that have offended you.
Doing something for the benefit and understanding of each other before doing anything.
These are just some of the goal setting shareware that you can use to help you resolve conflicts. Of course, all methods are based on the first point that is most important. All people who quarrel and can not get back together because they do not want to get back together, if they want to get back together, no matter how complicated the situation, they dare to face each other. . You need to know that human problems do not have many conditions. Some people do not agree because of different views (thinking differently), so if you want to get along with each other until you talk face to face, show your understanding if you are open-minded and not arrogant. Others do not agree because of the same interests, the same occupation, the same position, the same desire, so the only way to resolve the dispute is to talk to each other. By having this based on age, level, degree, status, and that they are difficult to get back together, because each one is afraid of being bad, if they want to get back together, only by removing the bad words from their hearts can they be solved.
Fear of bad is the biggest factor. Sometimes people realize that they are wrong, but they do not dare to apologize for fear of being bad, because depending on age, it may be older, on the other hand, a higher position or degree, fear that they do not know, etc. All are bad fears. And what is fear? You need to know that this is not just about arrogance or contempt for others, it is also about having fear, resentment, and self-loathing. This is why people do not dare to ask for reconciliation, even though they know they are wrong. On the other hand, some people want to reconcile, but insist that they are not at fault, what should be asked to be reconciled first, if the other party does not come to mediate first, the alliance can not be restored. This is also true.
Want to stop arguing, unless you stop wanting to quarrel, no more conflicts!
